Someone asked me recently, if I have to name one thing and one thing only by which I measure others –
and without thinking long or hard about it, I knew it had to be : “Honesty”.
Even my children know this. They understand that better, I suppose, than most everyone else around me.
They know that they can probably get away with ‘murder’ so to speak in many other matters –
if they cost me a few more Rand here and there… if they’re just a teeny bit lazy to jump to immediate attention when I demand a response… if they get a bit sulky at my (usually lengthy 😉 ) sermon on a bad test score, a note from school or a torn shirt… if they ‘forget’ to do one thing or the other… and a million other ‘human’ little things…
They KNOW NOT TO lie!
1. Because they firmly believe that I have the supernatural gift of discovering even the faintest of untruths
2. Because they’ve tried and tested this theory – and it has been proven right – every time
3. Because more than my anger (and subsequent (lengthy) sermon 😉 ), they fear my silence
and my mistrust of them once a lie has been exposed, is much greater a punishment
than any other consequence they have to face.
Nothing in all the world is more dangerous than sincere dishonesty which is a sign of oblivious stupidity.
Meaning : you may feel quite safe and happy in whatever little untruth you may have told, but if you can’t remember ALL the aspects of that lie – you’ll be caught out eventually.
So, if you don’t have the memory of an elephant and aren’t taking notes while you’re lying,
you are in actual fact STUPID.
Stupid enough to think that someone else is just as absent-minded as you or not taking mental notes.
And nothing, NOTHING of you and your character carries more worth
than that which you’re willing to stand by and fall for.
And nothing, NOTHING is worse than a bad liar, having been caught out, pointing all 10 fingers in different directions, stupidly getting all their mental notes tangled into even more ludicrous justification and THEN ultimately blaming the discoverer of the untruth to being the inital reason for their having been ‘forced’ to lie, since they were ‘afraid’ to tell the truth because your reaction was exactly what they expected in the first place, which they wanted to avoid to begin with, hence their ‘decision’ to not tell the truth…
Confused now?? 😕
So am I
Some people will not tolerate emotional honesty in communication. They would rather defend their dishonesty on the grounds that it might hurt others. Therefore, having rationalized their phoniness into nobility, they settle for superficial relationships.
“I never meant to hurt you…” 🙄 Really??? Aaahhh!! So, because you didn’t want to hurt me, you went along and planned to kill me painlessly?? 😕
Ever ask somebody how they feel about lies? About deception? About pretence? What about fraud?
Every single one will tell you they despise it! They want nothing to do with it. Who in their right mind would be willing to be lied to, deceived, defrauded or cheated?
I don’t know a single willing person. Not even that person who continuously keeps on misleading everyone around them (and ironically enough habitually deceiving themselves) with their egoistic obnoxious notion that they and their deceit have a right to exist.
And maybe they do… but NOT IN MY LIFE – and somehow THAT, being my truth, for some mysterious reason hurts them?? When I tell you it’s over, because you lied, YOU hurt? 😯 And then you want to make ME feel guilty? 🙄
Nah – I can and will chose truth over all other benefits of friendships and relationships. You can’t give me anything in exchange for that. Nothing. You can’t outbuy, outgive or outdo it. Your whole worth is weighed by truth’s measure.
How do you measure truth?
Truth is measured by proof. By certainty. No doubt. No suspicion. No caution. No question.
Do you know someone (if you’re lucky, more than one) who you just know you can trust with your whole life?
What is it about them that gives you that trust? And isn’t it THAT what makes them just that bit more of an extraordinary human being?
I reckon, though the truth may hurt a little sometimes, I’d rather hurt you with the truth than kill you with a lie.
“Peace – if at all possible ~ Truth – at all costs”
TRUTH. Try it – it is TRULY the most liberating and rewarding of all virtues!